We live in a culture obsessed with sex. From movies to shopping malls to commercials on TV, you get bombarded by sexual images. And many people believe a lie about sex. A myth has spread through our culture that says waiting until marriage for sex is ridiculous. Not only has the culture believed this myth, many in the church believe it too.
People who have sex before marriage live for the present. They think to themselves, “Why wait?” They don’t think sex before marriage will affect their future. Rejecting God’s plan for marriage, they engage in sex without the safe boundaries God created.
God created boundaries to enhance life, not hinder it. But when those boundaries get tossed aside, the consequences make life dangerous, like a car driving on the wrong side of the road. What are the consequences of a “why wait” mindset? Here’s just a few.
STI’s (Sexually transmitted infections): The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) conducted a study which produced shocking results. Sex outside of marriage spreads STI’s like a wildfire. This fire affects more people than you think. “Young people (ages 15-24) are particularly affected, accounting for half (50 percent) of all new STIs.” And many people infected by these diseases don’t even know it. If you look around you, and if your friends are between 15-24, sex before marriage could mean an STI, even AIDS.
Unplanned Pregnancies: Many who have sex before marriage create unplanned pregnancies. A recent Fox News article states, “More than two-thirds of pregnancies in unmarried 20-something women between 2001 and 2008 were unplanned, a new study finds.” Two thirds of these pregnant women didn’t even want a baby!
Abortion: The same Fox News study revealed chilling numbers on abortion. “About half of unintended pregnancies in this age group end in abortion…” And, a survey by the Census Bureau revealed that in 2007 83.7% of abortions in America were by unmarried women.
STI’s, AIDS, unplanned pregnancies, and abortions, when will we learn? We could prevent all of this pain and suffering by following God’s plan. You can’t get an STI if you and your spouse wait until marriage. You won’t contract AIDS from sex if you wait until marriage. And in the context of marriage, abortion is almost nonexistent.
Outside of marriage, the Bible tells us to “flee from sexual immorality.” (1 Cor. 6:19) Yet inside of a marriage, sex can bring incredible joy as seen in the book the Song of Songs.
Don’t believe in the moral myth of sex before marriage. Don’t roll the dice with your future. Rather, live for your future marriage! Like an architect who draws plans for a beautiful building, plan for your marriage in advance. God’s way is the way of no regrets. Obeying Him brings blessing. Build a future you can rejoice in.