Moral Myths–Sex before marriage

ImageWe live in a culture obsessed with sex. From movies to shopping malls to commercials on TV, you get bombarded by sexual images. And many people believe a lie about sex. A myth has spread through our culture that says waiting until marriage for sex is ridiculous. Not only has the culture believed this myth, many in the church believe it too.

People who have sex before marriage live for the present. They think to themselves, “Why wait?” They don’t think sex before marriage will affect their future. Rejecting God’s plan for marriage, they engage in sex without the safe boundaries God created.

God created boundaries to enhance life, not hinder it. But when those boundaries get tossed aside, the consequences make life dangerous, like a car driving on the wrong side of the road. What are the consequences of a “why wait” mindset? Here’s just a few.

STI’s (Sexually transmitted infections): The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) conducted a study which produced shocking results. Sex outside of marriage spreads STI’s like a wildfire. This fire affects more people than you think. “Young people (ages 15-24) are particularly affected, accounting for half (50 percent) of all new STIs.” And many people infected by these diseases don’t even know it. If you look around you, and if your friends are between 15-24, sex before marriage could mean an STI, even AIDS.

Unplanned Pregnancies: Many who have sex before marriage create unplanned pregnancies. A recent Fox News article states, “More than two-thirds of pregnancies in unmarried 20-something women between 2001 and 2008 were unplanned, a new study finds.” Two thirds of these pregnant women didn’t even want a baby!

Abortion: The same Fox News study revealed chilling numbers on abortion. “About half of unintended pregnancies in this age group end in abortion…” And, a survey by the Census Bureau revealed that in 2007 83.7% of abortions in America were by unmarried women.

STI’s, AIDS, unplanned pregnancies, and abortions, when will we learn? We could prevent all of this pain and suffering by following God’s plan. You can’t get an STI if you and your spouse wait until marriage. You won’t contract AIDS from sex if you wait until marriage. And in the context of marriage, abortion is almost nonexistent.

Outside of marriage, the Bible tells us to “flee from sexual immorality.” (1 Cor. 6:19) Yet inside of a marriage, sex can bring incredible joy as seen in the book the Song of Songs.

ImageDon’t believe in the moral myth of sex before marriage. Don’t roll the dice with your future. Rather, live for your future marriage! Like an architect who draws plans for a beautiful building, plan for your marriage in advance. God’s way is the way of no regrets. Obeying Him brings blessing. Build a future you can rejoice in.

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3 Responses to Moral Myths–Sex before marriage

  1. shekinah419 says:

    Reblogged this on servehiminthewaiting and commented:
    I really appreciate your posting of this. Such a critical area where Satan does immeasurable and devastating damage. I like this analogy that I once heard; Sex before marriage is like this:
    Imagine you had your eye on an awesome new car. You are saving your money, dreaming of someday owning it, even though it might be a long way off, you are working for it. You have talked about that car, and talked about that car so that everyone who knows you, knows “that’s your car”. Then one day you stop by your rather wealthy and successful dad’s house and discover your dad has bought that very car! You can’t believe it! You think, “What? That’s MY car! HE BOUGHT MY CAR!!”, and you resent that now your dad is going to be tooling around in your dream ride. Over the course of the week, you stew over that, and the more you think about it, the more your anger, resentment, and sense of entitlement grows, until one day, you slip in Dads house and take the keys without permission, and take the car out for a spin. And you total the car.
    Your Dad gets the call when you land in the Emergency Room, and he is distraught with concern over your welfare. Once he knows you are not seriously hurt, he is baffled to learn the car you were driving was the beautiful new car that he just purchased. When you confess your feeling of resentment over his purchasing for himself the car he knew was your dearest dream, you learn that he had bought it not for himself, but for you, and had intended to give it to you that weekend as a surprise.
    Imagine how that would make you feel, to realize your misguided heart-attitude, that in essence, you had stolen what was intended to be a very special gift from a loving and generous father, not only depriving yourself in your covetousness, but ruining what was sure to have been one of your dad’s greatest moments as he anticipated the joy of bestowing his gift to you. In the end, something very valuable was lost, and more than one person got tragically and irrevocably cheated and robbed of something precious.

    • Mohamed says:

      Scott, you should praictce what you preach and were taught at USM by showing more consideration for the Roman Catholic Church and others with whom you might not agree. You would act no less fascist than you think the RCC is, mandating your own western mindwash of political correctness, egalitarianism, (fake)multi-culturalism, etc. no differently than someone indoctrinated by a fascist political regime. You are American Western modernist in your indoctrinated thinking no differently than a brown shirt was/is Natzi in theirs. Such anti- culuture has been fabricated by the ruling oligarchy to control plebes like yourself, and dupe you into working against your own best interest. The RCC happens to have a different view of human anthropology than your modernist one, and doesn\’t see sex as an amusement park, do your own thing , form of entertainment. So those poor sexually active teens need to read Pinocchio and decide (yes CHOOSE, rebellion\’s not genetic!) if they want to be REAL boys and girls, or things with strings that are always pulled by someone or something else. Such life is not their own, but of course they are too deluded to see that perspective. They will fight to the death for their freedom and individuality , blind to the fact of their conformity to perversion. And of course, it\’s understandable given that they have no idea regarding the passions that work within them, as such self knowledge has long been unfashionable in favor of Freudian psychology . (What human edification could the soulless Freud give regarding the human soul, much less a modern psychologist ?)See Torches of Freedom by E. Michael Jones, Underground History of American Education by John Taylor Gatto, and Gramsci: A Method to the Madness at you choose to REALLY seek Truth, you just might wake up to the fact ( evolve in consciousness how Jungian!) that you graduated from the University of S M!Libido Dominandi:Sexual Liberation Political ControlThe definitive history of the sexual revolutionFourteen hundred years later (after the collapse of the Roman Empire), in a world eager to reject the intellectual patrimony of the West, a decadent French aristocrat turned that tradition (see below) on its head when he wrote that “the freest of people are they who are most friendly to murder.” Like St. Augustine, the Marquis de Sade would agree that freedom was a function of morals. Freedom for the Marquis de Sade, however, meant willingness to reject the moral law. Unlike St. Augustine, the Marquis de Sade proposed a revolution in sexual morals to accompany the political revolution then taking place in France. “Thus, a good man, though a slave, is free; but a wicked man, though a king, is a slave. For he serves, not one man alone, but, what is worse, as many masters as he has vices.”– St. Augustine, City of God

  2. jcrusader says:

    Great point! Why do we get in such a hurry? Thanks for the positive truth–we should trust that as Christians, our Heavenly Father will provide what’s good in His time.

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